Letting Go

We’ve all been in a situation where we know it’s no good for us but we stay anyway, whether its a relationship or a friendship. Often we’re scared to let go out of fear of the unknown, as humans we are creatures of habit by nature and we like whats familiar to us. When it comes to letting go of toxic situations or even just situations that are no longer a benefit to your life what we need to understand is that its okay and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

STOP OVERTHINKING, We all do it and it can borderline drive us crazy if we let our minds run away with the possibilities.

UNDERSTAND that not everyone in this world is going to live up to your expectations and standards of how you want them to be all of the time and that’s okay. Understand that we are not owed closure from anybody, and although it is ideal and would make this process a whole lot easier it is not guaranteed. Learn to move through life creating your own closure for situations and with following these steps I hope you are able to find some peace of mind

ACCEPT that what has happened has happened. Talk about it or write it down, you don’t have to talk to the person it involves it could be with anyone or even yourself and this doesn’t mean that you have to tell every detail. You could just express the way you feel and it is important to understand why you feel like that. Try to think about the reasons you feel the way you do, link each emotion to a reason.

Now you know why you’re feeling some type of way find the SOLUTION. What are you going to do about it? Are you going to continue doing the same thing and taking the same shit? How are you going to deal with this situation if it arises again.

MOVE ON, moving on may be the hardest part as you have to draw a line and continue on a new page. This doesn’t mean you have to forgive and forget, it just means you have accepted what has happened and you’re no longer going to let it actively affect your life. It will take some time and practice but you will get the hang of doing this if you apply these steps to small disputes in your daily life, as you simply can’t go through life carrying the burden of peoples wrongdoings. How will you find space for all the positive things in your life if you are still holding on to the negative things. In a relationship moving on also means that you are not going to bring up the situation in arguments all the time or continue to hold it against your partner, you don’t have to forget but you cannot keep it at the front of your mind as it will become destructive not just for the relationship but for your own peace of mind..

I wish you the best of luck in letting go of whatever is is you’ve been holding on to far longer than you should have and I hope something ten times better comes your way.